THIS LOVE SHA......

It’s a Wednesday evening and I call my favourite cousin to enquire about his divorce proceedings. He sounds a bit cheerful but tired from a long day. In his exact words, ‘with or without them, I’m moving on’.

Wow! It made me think of many things; how this would affect the former wife; what effect it would have on each ex-partner’s reputation. Also the impression it made on me as, hoping to be married someday.

I remember the big wedding, with all the careful planning and hardwork put in to making it a success. What a waste! How must the young woman feel, a marriage crashing before barely taking off. Whose fault was it? Apparently, the man found out some dirty secrets about his wholesome bride at a very late hour. But their story is not my focus for now, what actually dominates my mind is the delicacy of romantic relationships. What took several years to build can be destroyed in just one day. Some that start well just happen to fizzle out in days due to several things; lack of communication, misunderstandings and just sheer lack of interest on the part of one party, certain discouraging discoveries about another’s past and the list goes on and on.

From experiences shared and learned, it is important to know the personality of one’s partner first before making hurried conclusions about the future of a relationship. Coming clean about any lurid details that one feels may be disturbing to the hearer and just generally being oneself. The thing about life is that choices made earlier on can suddenly be as fresh as daylight but attempting to hide them and play saint can be quite disastrous. What will be, will be, no need for one to struggle to keep a relationship with a person who can’t see past your mistakes to your inner person and appreciate you.

With special emphasis on women, your time in the sun is limited. No need to stress that your peak period comes earlier on in life as compared with men. And like most GSM users who are conversant with cheap call rates, women, make good use of that time too, suitors come cheap and in their numbers but your ability to decipher which ones are advantageous to you and carefully select among them a winner, makes you the most prudent user of your peak time.

Yes, all this sounds superficial, and some would say easier said than done. Some would also ask, how about the ladies who are entering the late afternoon and evening periods when calls (suitors) are expensive, talk less of a husband. Well, I can encourage you, the best hunters move in the twilight, when the rarest catch is made, so keep being yourself and don’t lose hope. Keep looking unto Jesus, the author and finisher of our faith!